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I will do Anything to Move up the Ladder of Success

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I will be sharing another excerpt from the book, “Signs of Hope: Ways to Survive in an Unfriendly world,” in a minute. But first I want to let you know that the book is on sale right now on this site. In the retail stores, this book is $19.99, but on this site only it is $15.99. The shipping has been cut in half as well. A total savings of over $6.00. Just click on the “Bookstore,” tab at the top of this page to check it out.

This book reaches out to those who may be suffering from anxiety, fear, depression, addictions, self-doubt, hopelessness, and the many other usual suspects.

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Today’s excerpt talks about how some of us will do anything to move ahead in the world, even if it means stepping on someone’s toe along the way to do it.

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Chapter 37

 

For Sale by Owner

 

The man of integrity walks securely, but he who takes crooked paths will be found out.

Proverbs 10:9

 

As some people go through their lives they often plow through their days acting as if they are the king or queen. Have you sometimes wanted to let others know how important you are? Have you looked down on those who may not live up to your standards? Do you get depressed when things don’t go exactly as you want them to? (Come on! Be honest now.)

This thinking often leads to doing things that may be very unethical. What can I do to better myself—no matter what the cost? How can I move ahead in the world?

These thoughts may lead to a “tiny little sin”—maybe just telling a fib about someone, hoping it will spread to others. Soon the little fib has grown into a full-blown lie and the person you lied about suffers because of what you said.

After you have done this and gotten away with it, you decide to take another giant step and plant some damaging information about another employee where everyone can see it. Again the person is given a hard time by the rest of his or her coworkers, and the person you maligned leaves.

Now you’re on a roll! There are only a couple more people in your way, and then you are at the top.

This is probably about someone else, or is it? Have you done something similar to this? Is your climbing the ladder so important that you find ways to advance?

This is playing on Satan’s team—the Hell-Bound Desperados! The prince of darkness is whispering in your ear. He is telling you that hurting others to advance yourself is done by everyone else. Why shouldn’t you do it too?

Here are some other thoughts Satan may be whispering in your ear:

“Go get success at any price.”  However God says, “But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well” (Matthew6:33).

“Seek riches at any cost!” God says, “Do not store up for yourselves treasures on earth … But store up for yourselves treasures in heaven” (Matthew 6:19–20).

“If it feels so good, do it.” But God says, “Not my will, but yours be done” (Luke 2:42). 1

Doing the evil it takes to advance yourself is like having a big sign on your chest that says, “For sale by owner.” (And the fine print will read: “Sold to the highest bidder.”) This is saying you’re willing to give up your soul to get the prize. You are letting Satan know that your soul can be used by him. You may get ahead in life, but your behind will be sitting in a very hot climate in death.

This all sounds pretty harsh for just telling a few lies so you can step over your fellow workers and advance. But if you feel your life is so important that no one can stand in your way, I have some “Death Valley” property in mind for you that has plenty of heat year-round. There aren’t any lemonade stands to cool you down either.

Are you thirsty for fame, power and material things? You will die of thirst. Those things are like water from the ocean. They don’t quench your thirst; they kill.

You need to hang a new sign on your chest that says, “Under construction.” God is never through letting us grow. We will always be tested. We are always faced with trials. The sign that is selling your soul to get ahead does not need to control your life. Get a scissors and cut that sign off your chest right now!

 

Like a club or a sword or a sharp arrow is the man who gives

false testimony against his neighbor.

Proverbs 25:18

 

Repent, then, and turn to God, so that your sins may be wiped out, that times of refreshing may come from the Lord, and that he may send the Christ,

who has been appointed for you—even Jesus.

Acts 3:19–20 (emphasis mine)

 

(I had to end this with something positive to quench your thirst from all the heat you just read about!)

 

Further Adventures

Everything I said in this chapter probably will never happen in your life. You know what is right and wrong. You know that stepping on others is not the way to try to get ahead. Rising up the ladder of success, no matter what you have to do, is not part of your thinking. Right?????

 

Something to Ponder

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Loved the Wedding; Invite Me to the Marriage-God

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The book, “Signs of Hope: Ways to Survive in an Unfriendly World, is available in our bookstore now. This books reaches out to those who may suffer from anxiety, fear, depression, addictions, self-doubt, hopelessness, and the many other usual suspects.

In the retail stores it sells for $19.99, but on this site it is only $15.99. The shipping has been cut in half as well. A total savings of over $6.00. Just click on the “Bookstore,” tab at the top of this page.

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I am sharing with you an actual excerpt from the book, “Signs of Hope: Ways to Survive in an Unfriendly World.” This excerpt talks about what we do after we have our weddings. Do we leave God in our lives, or do we wing it on our own?

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Chapter 36

 

Loved the Wedding; Invite Me to the Marriage

—God

 

However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself,

and the wife must respect her husband.

Ephesians 5:33

 

For the past several decades, weddings have been held in churches. That is a good place to start a life together. The minister talks about loving each other and establishing a Christian home. All things seem to be in place.

It is always a beautiful thing to observe—two people holding hands and making vows of everlasting love. The mothers of the bride and groom have tears in their eyes. Some dads wonder when the ceremony will end. The newly married couple can’t wait to head out on their honeymoon. The reception is a real celebration. Everyone is happy, and the day ends.

Then what? The next day is a new day, and it is the first day of a young couple’s new life together. Decisions have to be made together. They go everywhere together. They are now a team that will last forever.

Eventually the scene changes a little. Both spouses find they need some time alone, but they’re afraid to say so. Resentment can build and they may feel like the walls are closing in on them.

It’s sort of like going to church on Sunday—and then there is Monday. What do you do then? What do you do with what the pastor said in the sermon? How do you make it practical—something you can use all week?

Often the message is soon forgotten, and nothing happens to make Monday any different. We sit and listen to the advice and sermon points on Sunday, sometimes even nodding our agreement, and then we ignore them on Monday.

The advice and promises that are part of the marriage ceremony are vital to the ongoing relationship with a spouse. But during the actual ceremony the bride and groom aren’t listening to the advice. Instead, they’re trying to remember the words they have to say, or they’re worrying about their hair or how they look or if there will be enough food for the guests.

They go into their life together, winging it, flying with no parachute. Marriage does not have to be an on-the-job training situation.

Does this ring a bell? Do you remember your wedding day? Was it all about listening to the advice the minister gave you, or was it about making sure you sliced the wedding cake just right? Maybe it was making sure the photographer took one more picture.

We’ve all been there. It is an exciting, wonderful, important, stressful, nerve-racking day. It is the day we dream of all our lives, and we want to have all the memories forever.

But as you go on with your lives together, what happens next? Is the same spark there five years later? How about ten years later? We are supposed to still love when the wrinkles come and the fire is not as hot.

Have you agreed on how plans should work out, or have you agreed to disagree?

Getting married is one of the most important decisions we make in our lives. If we plan to live a lifetime together with our spouse, shouldn’t we talk to a minister ahead of time? Wouldn’t it be good to seek out what God has in mind? Marriage counseling to learn more about a future spouse would also be in order.

These things may seem obvious, but you would be amazed how many people do not do any of those things. Some feel it is more fun to run off toRenoto get married. Others decide to live together and not even get married.

God loves for us to be happy and have companionship, within the context of His will. He believes in marriage. That is why He wants us to make sure we’re making the right choices.

Running off and getting married on a whim is like putting all our life’s earnings on a blackjack table and hoping to get a 21. The chances of that happening are slim and none.

I agree that a marriage often does work out in spite of the odds. All I have been saying is pretty harsh, but just like putting all our money on a blackjack table, theRenoodds of a successful marriage are pretty dim too. Does a 50% chance seem acceptable for you? Some surveys say that as many as 50% of marriages fail when they do not have a foundation of premarital counseling that includes having plans for the future in place.

God needs a prominent place in our marriages. We need to let Him be our advisor as we plan for the future. He needs to have a special rent-free place in our hearts. No bargaining. No yearly leases. He needs to be a year-round, full-time resident, helping marriage partners live a life full of love and understanding for each other.

There should always be three people in a marriage: you, your spouse and God. The three of you make an unbeatable team.

 

Marriage should be honored by all.

Hebrews 13:4

Further Adventures

“Will you still love me? Will you still need me, when I’m 65?” That song rings in my ears many times when I look at my bride. She has been with me through the storms and the good times. Do we have nothing but beautiful rainbows every day? That would be backwards, wouldn’t it? You need a little rain to bring on the rainbow.

That is what a marriage is like. You have days when you laugh and have fun with your spouse, but there are other days when you have been hurt by that same spouse. You feel unwanted and dejected. That is when you should buckle down and really work hard at your marriage.

Your spouse is not your enemy. She may be angry at the moment, but she still loves you, and by sitting down and discussing the hurts and dejections you feel, the rainbow will come out again. The key is to still love your spouse with all your heart—even when she is 65 and her age is starting to show.

 

Something to Ponder

Isn’t it funny how much easier it is to forgive than to hold a grudge?

 

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The Trouble With Doing Nothing; We Don’t Know When we Are Done

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I have been sharing excerpts from the book, “Signs of Hope: Wasy to survive in an Unfriendly World.” Today’s excerpt encourages us to not only be strong Christian on Sundays, but we need to show others our Christian faith on Mondays through our actions as well. 

The book, “Signs of Hope: Ways to Survive in an Unfriendly World,” reaches out to those who may be suffering from anxeity, fear, depression, addictions, self-doubt, hopelessness, and the many other usual suspects.

The book is on sale right on this site. In the retail stores it is $19.99, but if you order from this site, it will only be, $15.99. The shipping has been cut in half as well. A total savings of over $6.00.

Just click on the “Bookstore,” tab at the top of this page to check it out.

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Chapter 35

 

The Trouble with Doing Nothing Is that I

Never Know When I’m Done

 

In the same way, let your light shine before men, that they may see your good deeds and praise your Father in heaven.

Matthew 5:16

 

We go to church every Sunday, but are we doing anything about reaching out to people for the Lord on Monday?

When we worship in church, we have our eyes on the Lord and praise Him. We fellowship with other Christians and we feel refreshed.

What about Monday? You have a good attitude while you’re in church, but what is your attitude on Monday.

Let’s look at Paul for a few lines. Paul spent many of his years being beaten, hated, and even put in prison. What do you think his attitude was? Wouldn’t you think he was angry, sad and depressed or at least complained a lot?

There was a time when Paul was in prison, not knowing what the next day might bring. He had already put a plea in to the Roman government to spare his life, but he didn’t know what their decision would be.

Not so fast, my friend! Paul was overflowing with joy! Yes, a man that was on death row was excited to be there. He had a great attitude because he had a “captive” audience. The guards and prisoners had to be there each day and listen to him tell them about Jesus and the salvation He offers. What a golden opportunity for him. The gospel was spread all through the prison! Paul rejoiced for the chance to witness. Plus while he was in prison, he wrote the book of Philippians, where he uses the word “rejoice” over and over. So much for a pity party!

Attitude check here: What is our attitude on Monday when we have a chance to witness to others around us? Remember one very important thing: When we are telling others about Christ, we are not alone! God is with us.

Surprise! As a retired teacher, I still cherish the times when I can have an unannounced quiz. Let’s see how you do:

  1. Can people sense you are a Christian?    ____ Yes    ____ No   
  2. Can people tell you are Christian by the way you respond to trials, pain and hardships?____ Yes    ____ No  
  3. Do you show the gospel of Christ with your attitude?    ____ Yes    ____ No
  4. Would people reach out to you and say, “I want what you have”?    ____ Yes    ____ No   

 

If you said no, or you are not sure about your answer to any of these questions, you failed the test. You will have to take it over and over again until you get 100%!

Stop sweating blood! I am not really saying that you have to be perfect. I’m not able to get 100% myself most days.

Romans 3:23tells us we all have come short of the glory of God. I am not perfect. I come short of the glory of God more often than I would like to admit.

But, let me show you some ways each one of us can improve a great deal on our attitude and daily walk with God.

In Philippians 2:14–15, Paul says, “Do everything without complaining or arguing so that you may become blameless and pure, children of God without fault in a crooked and depraved generation.”

In other words, let your attitude reflect the love of Jesus Christ.

It is wonderful to worship God on Sunday, but if you do nothing on Monday, others will never know that you are a Christian. Your attitude is one of the most revealing factors about your personality. If you get angry a lot, or think the world is against you and complain about everything, your attempt at witnessing is falling on deaf ears.

Listen to Paul and try not to complain or walk around with a bad attitude. I have observed many people who just by their actions show the love of Christ for others. I don’t have to ask them if they are a Christian—it just shows.

If we strive to act like that on Monday, we will be doing something. And we’ll know we are done when God no longer brings people into our daily life in need of His touch through us. We’ll feel grateful for what God has done for us and be happy with what we have done for God that day.

To summarize the four quiz questions above: Can people see Christ in you?    Yes or No

If people wanted to know what God was like during Christ’s time, all they had to do was look at Him. If people want to know what Christ is like today, they should be able to look at His followers.

 

 … Do this with gentleness and respect, keeping a clear conscience, so that those who speak maliciously against your good behavior in Christ may be ashamed of their slander.

1 Peter 3:15–16

 

Further Adventures

Take inventory of your life. What direction are you going? Do you feel you are doing what God has in mind for you? Are you comfortable with where you are now as far as showing God’s love to others? If not, get into the Word. Pray for God’s guidance and take action on whatever He tells you. Doing nothing leaves you stagnant and ineffective for God.

 

Something to Ponder

Isn’t it funny how we feel strong about our belief in God, but weak when it comes to sharing it?