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This will be another short post today. I am on the tail end of fighting COVID. I am much better, but still pretty weak. I see my doctor today to check out everything. Hopefully it will be a good report.
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This will be a very short post tonight. I have found that this old solider has come down with COVID. It has knocked me down and I have been bed ridden for four days. It saps any strength you have and keeps you very weak.
I will finish up with my usual words of support and encouragement.
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A Russian military tugboat carrying a surface-to-air missile launcher to Snake Island in the Black Sea sank after two Ukrainian missiles struck it, Kyiv announced Friday.
It’s a pitiless artillery war, perhaps not seen since WWI, involving less strategy than slugfest, both sides lob barrage and counter-barrage over a see-sawing front line and hope to still be standing when they pulverize the other side into submission or withdrawal.
Here is another excerpt from my upcoming book, Signs of Hope for the Military: In and Out of the Trenches of Life. This is one aspect of the military people take for granted. However, they can’t forget it because it impacts their whole family.
In the military it is all too common that domestic violence raises its ugly head. The spouse that is left behind usually gets the brunt of it. Some signs that you may be one of those victims are:
Are you slowly, helplessly letting the continuous grip of despair come over you?
Are you pounded by guilt others have placed on you like the waves hitting the shores on the Oregon coast?
Does your marriage feel dead or burnt out?
Have you cried so much that the reservoirs for your eyes have dried up?
Do you fear the times when your spouse is coming home?
Do you feel it is better to remain silent than to say anything at all?
When you do speak, are you chastised or even beaten?
If you face any of these situations, you are in a domestic violence trap. Domestic violence sucks the joy out of anyone. You shouldn’t be like a bobble-head doll and let someone slap you around until you nod the way they want you to.
Angry people want to see how powerful they are.
Loving people want you to see how powerful you are.
Chief Red Eagle
His statement is so true. Angry people want to crash the hopes of those around them. They want to crush their dreams. They have to be in control. They seek power and seek submission from others.
Let’s look at what we can do to try to even the playing field in a marriage, military or otherwise.
Things that hurt a marriage can be:
Making your spouse look bad in public. This can happen a lot in the military because there are a lot of functions that require their personnel to come with a spouse, and this seems to be a prime place to show others who is the boss.
Putting coal in those angry snowballs you throw. Stick and stones may break my bones, but words can destroy me. So many times violence starts from a shouting match where one spouse is calling the other horrible names.
Using threatening statements like, “I am leaving for good,” is so hurting that the other spouse will give in and allow the horrible dream to continue.
Using absolute words like “always” and “never” when you describe something your spouse does or doesn’t do can crush their heart. Saying, “You always cook the wrong food,” or “You never keep the house clean enough,” is very degrading and harmful to the marriage.
One thing I’ve noticed when someone says they have a perfect marriage is that it is easy to see that one of them is in complete control. Feelings are not allowed. The outward appearance can be deceiving. If one spouse is always quiet and you seldom hear a word from them, it is often a bad sign. Silence is a deal breaker in most marriages.
If you are a victim, or even the aggressor, you need to change the path that you’re going down. You need to do a U-turn and go back to when you both were madly in love.
Have you ever noticed in the western movies when a cowboy has ridden his horse for a while he then stops, turns around, and then looks back? Why do they do that?
They do it because the trail looks different looking back than when they rode over it. It is a way to know your way back if you need to go that way again.
If you’re in the middle of a domestic violence situation, you need to look back and find your way back to where you both where truly in love.
One thing to remember is that when you first married you thought your spouse was nearly 100 percent awesome, and you knew the other amount was under construction.
Here is a big secret. (Now don’t tell anyone.) If we spent more time acting like we were still courting our spouses long after the marriage takes place, there would be less divorces and domestic violence in this world.
We need to keep forging ahead to find new ways to make things work for us. It’s like a river that reaches places the beginning of the river never knew. There will be new paths that we have never been on, and there will be walls we have never faced. But like that same river that meanders around obstacles, we have to find ways to go through, around, or under those walls to keep the home fires burning.
We need to quit looking for the bad in our spouse. It is like looking for weeds instead of enjoying all the flowers around them.
We must allow our spouse to become. By that I mean like when a caterpillar goes completely into a cocoon and is stripped of all form; yet it is changed into a beautiful butterfly. People are like that.
We also need to God in our lives. We need to have Him heal the open wounds of the heart and exchange the horrible looks on our faces with a smile. He can do that if we allow Him to.
If both spouses let go of their own desires and allow God to guide their lives, love will automatically overflow from each them. Of course, we know that love conquers everything.
If you are a victim, get help from the proper sources in the appendix. If you are the aggressor, do the same. There are anger management sources in the back.
IWILL
Domestic violence is very much in the minds of all people these days because of the tremendous exposure it is getting in professional athletics. Way too many sports figures have made headlines because of domestic violence. The subject is now out in the open for all to think about in their own lives.
I agree that as military, you are living a regimented and strict life you have to obey every day. But there are no excuses to bring it home and use it on your spouse.
Use any resources you can to end the terror and humiliation of domestic violence.
Think about this
Isn’t it sad how we allow others to dictate our lives to us when we are capable of much more?
If you are battling mentally, but you are losing, GET HELP!!
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