Time to be Strong in a Not so Friendly World

It has been an interesting two months. I have been grounded in my home because of underlining problems with my health. Can’t go to a restaurant. Can’t meet friends and talk. Can”t hug my kids and grandchildren.

There are many other no, noes. However I am sure you know them.

So what can we do?

Some suggestions:

  1. Yes, you can watch TV all day.
  2. Go for walks. My wife and I went walking this afternoon. It was hot, and I struggled, but I am glad I went.
  3. Call ALL your family and friends and see how they are doing. Yes, this may take several days. Here’s what happens: You put a smile on their face, and because of that you have one too.
  4. Read! What a perfect time to sit in your favorite chair and read. I can recommend my first book, Signs of Hope: Ways to Survive in an Unfriendly World. I am sold out, but it is on Amazon as an e-book. I also suggest the Bible. Lots of drama, happy endings, sad endings, and lots of hope.
  5. Get creative around your house. I took on cleaning out two cupboards in the bathroom. They both were a mess. When I was done they were well organized, and I felt proud.

As a veteran what is happening is very hard on me. I am use to structure, but not this bad. I would rather be able to go where I want to when I want to.

How are you doing?

Are you climbing the walls? Is your temper a little loose? Do you want to stay in bed instead of facing the day. You aren’t alone. There are many other veterans in the same boat with you.

Stay Strong!

Be an asset to your family not a hindrance. Show leadership and keep your family happy.

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You are never alone.

You are never unloved.

You are forsaken.

And above all…Never, ever, give up!

A Sniper Shares His Hurts and Regrets

Today is Red Friday. We should all be wearing red to show support our active duty military.

I’ve had some amazing interviews with veterans while putting my new book, Signs of Hope for the Military: In and Out of the Trenches of Life.

I interviewed WW ll, Korean, Vietnam Iraq, and Afghanistan soldiers.

Some of the interviews were funny; some were sad; and some were hard to listen to.

Today I will share one interview to show you some of the fear, disappointments and anger our veterans have gone through.

Interview with a Sniper

I talked to a veteran from El Paso, Texas. He was a Sargent First Class. His duties were being a sniper.

He was asked if it was hard to shot another person. His answer was, “Not since I was helping my buddies stay alive.”

Death of His Buddies

The next question I asked him was how many of his buddies were killed. He said,”Fifteen or sixteen.” I said, “That must have been hard on you.” He said, They were my friends, what can I say.”

It is Hard on Families

He was getting irritated, so I switched to his family. I asked him if he was married. He said, “I was, but I am divorced now.” I then asked, “Can you tell me why that happened? ” He said, “The separation was to hard on both of us. She went her own way because she was so lonely.” He also said he had three children that he only sees once and a while.

There is much more to this interview, but you can see that he had a very rough time while in the military.

Many other stories like this

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You are never alone.

You are never forsaken.

You are never unloved.

And above all…never, ever, give up!

He Who Angers You Controls You

I have been sharing excerpts from my book, “Signs of Hope: Ways to Survive in an Unfriendly World.” I will be sharing Chapter three today.

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Chapter 3

He Who Angers You Controls You

But I tell you that anyone who is angry with his brotherwill be subject to judgment. Again, anyone who says to his brother,“Raca” [a term of contempt], is answerable to the Sanhedrin[body of authorities]. But anyone who says,
“You fool!” will be in danger of the fire of hell.
Matthew 5:22

I have “a short fuse.” I can be easily offended and strike back with anger. As the years have gone by I realize that anger doesn’t solve anything. It only raises my blood pressure, and allows the other person to win. They get what they want. They got me frustrated and not thinking clearly.

I have finally gotten smarter and have learned to control my feelings to the point where I still may be upset about what has happened, but I don’t let it cause me to verbally strike out toward the other person. I don’t “count to ten.” I turn to God to give me strength to overcome my own feelings and think about the consequences for me if I fail in my quest to help others with their anger. I also ask God to help me have a calm spirit, and an understanding heart. I’m not being a good example to my children—or anyone else—if I don’t.

The following story makes the point about anger very clearly. Got a hammer?
There was a little boy with a bad temper. His father gave him a bag of nails and told him to hammer a nail into the back fence every time he lost control. The first day the boy drove 37 nails into the fence. Then he gradually discovered it was easier to hold his temper than to drive those nails into the fence.

Finally, the day came when the boy didn’t lose his temper at all. His father suggested that the boy now pull out one nail for each day that he was able to hold his temper.

The days passed and the young boy was finally able to tell his father that all the nails were gone. The father led his son to the fence. “You have done well, but look at the holes in the fence,” he said. “When you say things in anger, they leave a scar just like the nail holes. You can put a knife in a person and draw it out. It won’t matter how many times you say ‘I’m sorry,’ the wound is still there. A verbal wound is as bad as a physical one.”

Be still before the LORD and wait patiently for him.
Psalm 37:7

A fool shows his annoyance [temper] at once, but a prudent man overlooks an insult.
Proverbs 12:16

In your anger do not sin: Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry.
Ephesians 4:26

Further Adventures
How do you deal with anger? Do you have loved ones who can’t control their feelings some times? I have been a victim of losing my temper sometimes. I can’t put a bunch of nails in my fence out of anger because Charlotte would want me be put in a safe place so I wouldn’t be harmful to anyone—or the fence—again.

But think about this story each time you get angry. Tell it to your loved ones when they get upset. This is an easy story to remember. It is very short, but its impact could be tremendous.

Something to Ponder
Isn’t it funny that when we say kind words to someone they say kind words back?

Remember: Never, ever, give up!